Be Your Own Biggest Fan

Much of Haemin Sunim’s words of wisdom are ringing true to my heart, lingering forever in my head, piercing me to pieces while making me deeply and hopelessly in love with myself, my life and everyone involves in it.

“Be your own biggest fan” he said. Try spending time with yourself, treat yourself to a delicious meal, buy a good book, take yourself out to a nice walk, in the park, with a lovely view. It’s okay if we have flaws, choose a life that improves through failure and pain. Shout “I love you so much” out loud to your struggling self. It’s okay to have some bad days, because bad days make us appreciate the good ones. Celebrate yourself for making an effort. Continue to have faith in yourself. He also said that all of us are worthy of being loved, and it’s not and never be because we succeed at doing what the world demand us to do, but because we are a precious living beings, regardless of what we do or do not do. That our existence itself is enough, that each and every one of us has our own value and we are worthy of love. We need to believe that we are worthy of love for who we are.

So all of you who are struggling with yourselves (including me), my-fellow-strugglers - let us together join our hand and learn, one small steps at a time, to celebrate-and love-ourselves. Let us pray and live our life in harmony. In harmony with our own struggle-and lovable selves.

I’ve been blessed to have read so many incredible books, listened to amazing speakers of TED talks, countless long-and thought-provoking conversations with my friends, and a never-ending support from my family had changed me significantly. They make me appreciate myself, and my life.

There are times when I’ve hit rock bottom, of course. But they are, and will always be there for me. It’s been a pretty hard-and long journey of finding-and loving myself, but I’m grateful for each and every moment. Those are the moments that make me who I am today. So I’m grateful, nevertheless.

Let us pray and do our best to celebrate ourselves, shall we? May we be our biggest fan! And please remember that you are not alone. You are not alone in your struggle. That we are here for you, we’re here in every corner of every way. You are not alone.

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